Hi all,
(I posted this over on ROP, figured I'd put it up over here...1st of 2)

Anyone familiar with restraining orders? The reason I ask is that today, while my fraternity "brothers" and I were cooking dinner, one of them decided to attack me. Here's the scoop.

I had started the grill with one of my good friends in the house, and we were talking about something, don't really remember, but the guy says "shut up" to us, in a joking sort of manner, as is typical with the house. We of course reply with a smartassed "F*ck you" to which he goes and throws a potato at me. Hits me at the base of the throat. (Keeping in mind I have never liked the guy) I pushed him, and told him to "not throw a fuckin potato at me." Here's where it gets interesting...

First a bit of background... this guy has the shortest fuse ever. And he always retaliates 10 fold. He can dish it, but cant take it. So he freaks out after I push him and says he will break my arms if I ever do that again. I tell him he won't break my arms. He freaks out, storms in after me, gets about a half inch from my face, with his hand on my adam's apple and starts yelling at me. I get very passive, and don't do anything physical back. He shoves me into a wall and shoves my head in the wall. As he is holding me, I say, very calmly... "Dont ever touch me again". He lets go, I walk away before I hit him.

Now normally I would just hit someone, but I want to really get to him. The problem is, I dont know that I can file a restraining order on someone I live with. Any thoughts on this?

For all I care, this guy no longer exists.

Sorry for the rant... had to get that off....

Andrew

Hi all,
(this is the 2nd of 2...)



Yeah, the possibility of blacklash is there... but my other brothers are completely behind me it seems. The real problem here is that he is an alum, and is our "house manager". He is sort of a secondary president... he is supposed to make sure stuff gets done. Anyway, he has been the house for roughly 5 years, and has had a history of this kind of crap.

I would really like to make peace with the guy, but he just took things way too far to be forgiven. I really dont want to get the police involved, but I want him to remember the consequences of his actions forever. I figured that if I got a restraining order, any background check he gets would bring it up. Revenge served cold indeed...

Anyway, I have decided to move out in the fall anyway, so until then, he no longer exists.




Andrew


So what should I do to this fvcker? He needs a lesson, and a good one. He really has a God complex, and if you don't let him have power, he freaks. Anyway, TIA for any and all replies.

Hi andrewk, hello everyone,


That, was the time to finish it. Since you didn't, live with it.


Unless he gives you another chance to finish it, you have no other choice. My guess is, he will look elsewhere for someone who will not stand up to him.


If they are, you should (as a group) file a complaint (with documentation), with his superiors, regarding his abuse of authority.


Not much chance. Consider the events that took place here during the past few days. Executions are different, but the motives/mentalities are very similar.


Waste of your time.


Ignore him unless he starts something else. If he does, put him away like you should have at the outset. Not much chance he'll hand you an opportunity to burn him, but if he's that stupid, take advantage of it.

Found the following piece of productive advice and thought it night help.


Regards, Norom

That is something I am going to do...



very good point.





Do I need to start correcting your spelling too?

Thanks for the advice

Andrew

I'm thinking something to do with dental floss, and a fire alarm.

Just me though.

yes, passive revenge is always sweet... Scratch your ass with his toothbrush. Better yet, let karma take care of it for you... He'll get his. Any of you watch My Name is Earl?